We had a takeaway this weekend from our favourite place in the village.
I don’t know about you, but we are creatures of habit.
So we don’t need to check whose is whose, when it arrives.
My Mam got to it first, so she started to unpack it.
(We all live together, go say hi to her in the Annex, though she pops up all over the place, mind you.)
Anyway. Where was I?
Oh yes, Mam is unpacking the goodies.
She’s got most of it unpacked.
But one of them has her flummoxed, good and proper.
”Who ordered an S/9? I don’t know what that is!”
”Mam, nobody in the history of Indian takeaways has ever ordered an S/9. That’s not a thing.” I proffer, oh so helpfully.
”Well it must be. I’m looking right at it!”
I venture over to the kitchen bench, and cast my eye over the mounds of tin foil offerings.
”Mam” I sigh. “That’s BS.”
”I beg your pardon?!” answers my now fully outraged mother.
Whom I have never sworn at in forty years of life, I might add.
Now as attractive the prospect of being sent to my room at 7pm is, given there’s a bed and no one under the age of two in there, I should still probably just explain myself.
”Mam, it doesn’t say S/9. its B/S; Biryani Sauce. You are reading it upside down.
Perspective is everything.
We can only ever truly see things from our current position.
If that view is a vantage point? Then great! I like everything I see when I’m feeling on top of the world.
But if I’m not? Well, then my eyes can very much deceive me.
And this, ladies, gents & all, is the very crux of why we wait to ask for help with our declining mental health.
We unequivocally know how we see things is how they truly are. Because our senses wouldn’t deceive us!
Except that they do. Constantly.
Ever had the world seem like a different place after a nap?
How about the “beer fear” that comes with a stonking hangover?
Conversely, ever watched someone have such a good day, that nothing can bring them down?
Sarcastic comments from the boss just bounce off their radiant demeanour.
And no task is difficult in this frame of mind.
Yes, perspective is everything, and ours can shift dramatically without us even realising that we have changed position.
Which is why objective input is so vital.
We all need to check in on ourselves, regularly.
I can’t tell you how many times we have both done the questionnaires in the home page of C&C’s place.
And every time the results are different.
Make sure you know what your genuine mood is right now.
Get the answer straight from an objective source.
That‘s the only way to make sure it’s not B.S...